Hi everyone! Today, I’m writing another personal post! The first one I did was on a trip I took to the Biesbosch in the Netherlands, which you can find here. Today’s topic is quite different though -which you already know because obviously you read the title first… Anyway, today I’m talking about my experience growing up and how I’ve noticed changes in myself over the past year or so. I’m sorry if this doesn’t interest you at all -which I can understand because this is a book blog. I hope you’ll give it a try though!
So, before you all ask, I’m currently 20 years old -and will be turning 21 in September. I know, most of you will be thinking that I am still growing up and into myself because I’m not even in the middle of my twenties yet. And yes, I agree with you! I will definitely still change over the next few years -and still at the age of 80- but over the past few months/year I have noticed changes in myself, so I feel like I CAN make this post!
1. Accepting who you are -and loving that person
Dramatic subtitle, I know. The first thing I’ve noticed over the past year is that I’m much more comfortable with who I am than before. Over the years, you learn more and more about yourself but I think especially in today’s society, it’s not ease to accept and love the person you are. Both physically and mentally!
I think I may make a discussion post just about this topic, because I have SO MUCH to say about it and I don’t want this post to be 4 pages long -which will probably still happen. I’ll try to keep it short in this post though, let me know if you’d like to read more about my opinions on this topic!
So here’s what I’ve learned in the past few years. I am an introvert and that’s okay! There is no need for me to pretend to be loud and extremely active and social all the time, because it’s simply not who I am. And the people I consider as true friends -and a bit like family- accept this. You don’t need to look like a Victoria’s Secret model to be beautiful. I’m happier with my appearance than I’ve ever been, I try to eat a bit healthier and do yoga -because it makes me feel good. NOT because I want to lose weight. Do what makes you feel good and it will show. That is beauty.
I know, you’re probably thinking “Jolien, I have heard this all before, it’s nothing new.” And you’re right, it isn’t. But it was hard for me to truly believe and accept.
By the way, I’m currently reading Quiet by Susan Cain and it has taught me so much about being an introvert. I’d highly recommend it. Or go watch her Ted Talk! Another person/channel that has helped me a lot in motivation and happiness is Cambria Joy’s YouTube channel, which I’ll link up for you here.
2. Changing dreams
Your dreams and goals in life change so much while you’re growing up. For example, I have always thought I wanted to live in an apartment in a big city. At this point in my life, I would want to live in a house close to the city -but NOT in it. I want some peace and green. Places to go for a walk and be in nature -for me, that’s quite the statement, because I used to hate going on walks in “nature”. Bugs, people, I hate bugs. Maybe that’s because I live in a big city now..
Same goes for job goals. Right now, I think that I’d either want to work in the publishing business or have a job in marketing/publicity. While the management part of my courses interests me to no end, I have no real desire to become a CEO. It makes me feel stressed out just thinking about it.
3. Tastes and characteristics
Yes, even these change! By tastes, I mean not only in fashion and design but also literally, in what I like to eat. I’ve been diversifying my eating habits and trying foods and products I either have never tried before or used to dislike. Like dates -which I now adore- and quinoa -so good with a tomato and tuna sauce. And fashion too! And lastly -at least for this post- is characteristics. I have grown into quite the organized person. I have spreadsheets on book-related things, on recipes that I like and a monthly budget. I have started using a little book where I note down pretty much everything. Quotes, lists of movies to see, to do lists, teas I like, etc. EVERYTHING. I have a highly organized mail inbox and Google calendar and I’m planning on buying myself an Erin Condren planner for next year.
So that was my second ever personal post. I’m sorry that it is SOOO long and if anyone made it to this line: THANK YOU. Let me know if you’d like to see a post entirely dedicated to any of these subjects, I’d love to write one.
A last request for you guys! Do you have any blogs, people or channels that make you feel motivated and happy -or that you just find helpful? Please link them down below, I’m always on the lookout for new ways to be more motivated and heel happier!